Monthly Archives: November 2011

No pay no play

I’ll never forget it!  At a well-known private club on I-10 about 20 years ago the wedding party and their families were arriving early.  The band leader drove up, saw the father of the bride and quickly got out of his car and ran up to him. 

 Band leader went up to the father and I heard him say, “I am not going to play one single note until I am paid for this wedding AND your last wedding that we did for your other daughter…. in CASH.”  The father didn’t say a word.  He just got in his car and sped off.  About 45 minutes later he returned and went to the band leader and handed him an envelope.  It must have been the correct amount of money because the band played that night!

 In our early days of photography we did not require that brides pay us before their wedding.  There was more than one occasion where we never got paid for the photos!  In those days (remember film?) the bride would see a proof book about two weeks after the wedding.  Then they would bring it back in a month or so with the pictures marked with the quantity and size.  I remember one time a bride marked her order with stick figures…..we ordered 1 of some, 11 of some and 111 of some!  Pretty stupid!  Of course, now everything is on-line where the orders are placed.

Today, a bride can pretty much count on the fact that all of the venders are going to want to be paid before the event begins.  After all, it is a well-known fact that fathers of brides are all broke when the wedding is over!  That’s why a bride is sometimes offered $10,000 by their father if they will elope!


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How old is too old?

Forty-five years ago people got married when they were a lot younger than they are today.  It wasn’t unusual in the 60’s for a bride to be 18 and the groom was 20.  In fact, I got married when I was 22 and Betty was 21.  We have been married for 51 years, but that is another story.  Today’s bride is usually a lot older than a 60’s bride.  Also, it is not unusual for today’s groom to be younger than his bride. I think it is that way in over half the marriages.

Speaking of older brides, I did a wedding a while back where the bride was 90 years old.  When her husband died, she announced that she was getting married within a couple of months.  She married a man who worked for them.  He was about 85.  She had four bridesmaids and four groomsmen.  She wore a full blown wedding dress and had a couple of great-grandchildren as flower girls.  The reception was held at the Roaring 20’s and people danced and drank all night. 

 I knew another man whose wife died and he remarried very soon thereafter.  They went to Mexico on their honeymoon and he died while they were there!  They had trouble getting his body out of Mexico because of the legal paperwork.

 I could go on, but you get what I am saying.  Today people are waiting longer to get married.  In fact they sometimes have children together before they get married.  A few years ago, I did a wedding on New Year’s Eve and both of the flower girls were their own children.  I asked the groom why they waited so long to be married.  He said, “We just wanted to be sure we were right for each other.”  OK.


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